Holding a grudge?

What if you realised that one of the best friends of your husband had her eye on him? What if she were his best "man" at the wedding? What if your best friend seduced your wife to the point that she left you for him?

I have to say I don't know how I would react. I would probably be very sad and angry at the same time. I might even wish that the laws of the Old Testament would still be observed today and be the first one to throw the stone at the so called friend. Now that's violent! Sorry. I have to be honest, that's all. 

Though my human nature tells me to hold a grudge against people who hurt me, God tells me to forgive. Wow! 

"But Lord, this is too much! I can forgive things but there are limits; this, I cannot forgive!"

Can you imagine God's answer? What if God did the same? "I died on the cross to forgive your sins, but this is too much! My sacrifice doesn't cover that kind of sin!" 

But as God forgave us and still does forgive us ALL our sins when we sincerely repent then we should also forgive for ALL the things that people do that hurt us. Easy to say, right?

But if we are saved we have received the Holy Spirit. He is also there to help us obey God and he is called the comforter and Jesus died on the Cross and rose again to heal us. It is about inner healing. If God heals our hearts then we will be able to forgive. 

Now all you have to do is let him do so.

Put on therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, bowels of mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering;

Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye. (Colossians 3:12-13 KJV)

"For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses." (Matthew 6:14-15 KJV)

If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. (1 John 1:9 KJV)

Thou shalt not avenge, nor bear any grudge against the children of thy people, but thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself: I am the Lord. (Leviticus 19:18 KJV)

Hatred stirs up strife, but love covers all offenses. (Proverbs 10:12 ESV)

Mistakes...

Everybody makes mistakes. 

One thing is to admit we did one. Another thing is to do all that we can so that we never make that same mistake again. 

Some people never make it even to the first step. Should I say many people?

Some are afraid of making mistakes and always wonder if what they do is the right thing. I think it's good to want to do the right thing. I don't think it's good to live in fear. 

You cannot savour your life and enjoy what you do if you are constantly afraid of making a mistake. Mistakes belong to life. You need to make mistakes to grow in life. You cannot be perfect and do everything right. We are humans not gods. 

And God actually teaches us things through our mistakes. We need to be dependent on Him. So if we never make mistakes or if nothing bad happens to us He will never get to teach us anything, will He?

That's why we need to make mistakes and we should never be afraid of taking chances. 

Writer's block

Does it really exist? What does it feel like to lose inspiration like this? Does it happen overnight? Just like that? 

But what is it exactly? If it ever happens, is there any hope? Is there any hope that you might find inspiration again?

I am sure there is always hope. When you have a special talent, you always dream a lot about what is possible to do with this talent. But if that talent seems to go away will the dream remain in your heart? If the dream remains then it might come back. If the dream disappears then it might have been just a season in your life. Then you may find out that you have other talents and gifts and use them properly. You might also stay careful and exercise them a lot to make sure your previous adventure won't happen again. Well, you never know what might happen. But if you fear writer or any other kind of block(loss of inspiration) it might happen. Even if we never know how it happens and why it happens. Don't think about it too much and focus on the dream that comes with your talent. 

Use that talent to bless others(not for your own glory) and to God's glory. The best way to use your talents and your gifts is to use them to achieve the dream God put in your heart. 

Then if you ever happen to have a block you won't worry about your future without this gift but you will be well disposed to hear what God has to tell you and to receive what he wants to give you.

It might be just for a time, for you to focus on the right things again. 

No One Is Perfect!

This is the excuse of so many people who don't want to change for the better. They hide behind this phrase. No one is perfect!

Well it is a fact. No one is perfect. At least, no human being is. But is it a bad thing to make it a goal in your life to be perfect? To do your best to be upright? I don't think so. IF you are aware that you will never be able to do it on your own. 

If you try to be perfect, you will soon realize that you are not. If you think that you have reached perfection, then it means you have never been further from it. But if you want to be perfect, you have to know that first, you need to be saved. 

To the question "How to be perfect" I have to answer "Once you're saved, you'll have everything you need to be perfect". But then again you might only reach perfection in heaven. Or should I say you will.

Then you might want to ask how to be saved. I will then answer "It is all explained in the Bible : you have to recognize and confess that you have sinned and that it seperates you from God. God is Holy, you are a sinner. Then you have to realize and confess that Jesus Christ(the Son of God, that is to say, God Himself) has come to earth to live as a perfect man without sin, then die on a cross instead of you as a perfect sacrifice to reconcile you with God and He rose again three days later(as He promised) because He won over death and sin and went back to heaven. He promised and will return just as he left to reign forever on the earth. Now all you have to do is to believe that, say that you believe it, and live by it. Which means repent from your sin(turn away from it) and trust God who will give you the Holy Spirit that will allow you to love God with all your being and others as yourself and hate sin and depart from it. You will have eternal life and have a relationship with God. You will then be able to obey His commands and start your journey to become more and more like Christ. Jesus Christ will be your Savior and Lord." (if you have more questions, ask me or have a look at this website)

So, once this question answered and this decision made, there is no excuse left not to do your best and get closer and closer to perfection each day. So, when someone tells you "it is not honest to do that" or "it's wrong to do that" or whatever that challenges you to change for the better, never, never NEVER EVER EVER answer "No one is perfect!". Instead, recognize that you have been wrong, ask God to forgive you and change what has to be changed. He will help you. I promise.

"Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect."(see Matthew 5)

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About Sickness...

This blog has been deserted for years...literally!

I'm sorry about that...

Anyway!

My question today is "why sickness?". The problem is : I don't have the answer!

No one has it, anyway..

But everyone at some point is going to get sick.

Now even if we can't know why, we can know how to cope with it.

My life being what it is, I have had to learn to cope with some serious illnesses. A friend of mine likes to say "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger". I agree. Even if it makes you weak and fragile on the outside, it can make you stronger on the inside. 

Yes, it can. It doesn't always make you wiser or stronger. Sometimes it makes you bitter instead of making you better. 

It is a choice one has to make. 

Will it make you think you are the only one to suffer in the world? Or that you are the one who suffers the most? Will it make you angry at everyone(and especially those who seem to have no problem in their lives)?Will it get the best of you? Will it make you pity yourself? Will it make you angry at God? Or doubt His goodness, love, faithfulness, you name it?

Will it help you understand other people who suffer around you? Will it help you surpass yourself and stretch your limits? Will it help you learn perseverance? Will it bring you closer to God? Will it help you learn about His goodness, love, faithfulness, power, etc?

You are the one to decide. 

If you are sick and it doesn't kill you, or even if it can or will kill you, will it make you stronger? Or even better : will it make you understand how weak you are and how strong God is?

"he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in necessities, in persecutions, in distresses for Christ's sake: for when I am weak, then am I strong." (2 Corinthians 12:9-10) 

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Scared?

Lately(for the past few months), I haven't been very talkative in here...
I guess I simply didn't have anything to say. Actually, every time I wanted to write something, I either erased what I had written(because I didn't find it good enough), or got stuck without knowing what to write...
Now, a few weeks ago, I saw a video by Charlie McDonnell, where he tells how scared he is at the moment. He is scared that people won't like him. He made me want to write again.

Human beings all have fears. Some are afraid of some animal, some are afraid of crowds, some are afraid of confined places, and so on. We all have fears. Different fears, but we are all afraid of something. BUT. There is one thing that all human beings are afraid of and aspiring to. Our common desire is to be loved. Our common fear is to be unloved. We all have different reasons to be afraid that someone(or everyone) won't love/like us. "I don't dress well enough" "I am not funny enough" "I am not cool enough" "I am not/too...blahblahblah".
Well, let me tell you something...
I don't have that fear anymore. Well, to be honest, I do feel unloved from time to time, but I find comfort thinking and knowing that at least there is one person who will always love me, and love me very much, unconditionally and perfectly, forever. When I was little, I thought I was useless and no one loved me and I thought I was simply not lovable. Thing is, I had always heard that God loved me, and he loved me so much that he sent Jesus Christ to reconcile with me through living a human life and dying instead of me though he was perfect and didn't do anything wrong, and he rose again, and now it was possible for me to have a relationship with him. When I realized what it meant, I felt so bad at first because I knew I didn't deserve it. I didn't deserve love from anyone let alone God, I was a bad little girl and I knew from what I had learned that almost everything I did, God didn't like. So, I was at the point that I told God "why do you love me so much? Don't love me like that!". But then, after showing me his love, he made me feel it. I knew and I felt loved. He was constantly telling me "I love you". Then, you know, he showed me that if I refused to be loved by him, it was making all his efforts vain, and that would be so outrageous and so hurtful to him. And I personally knew I needed him and his love to keep going. So I let him love me, and simply fell in love with him again(yeah because when I was like from 3 to let's say 6, I really genuinely loved him, he was basically my first love). From that moment on, he has always had my back and I know I can count on him, and he trusts me. We share a true friendship, and my life has become brighter. Now, I love life, because I know I'm loved, and because I love(not only God, but others too! Of course! ;) ).
Now, I also have come to realize that I have people around me who truly love me and support me(my family, and friends), and I think it is important to realize that even if you feel like people don't like you, or you're not lovable or you're afraid that people would reject you or dislike you or what you do and so on, there will always be people around you who care about you and will always support you no matter what. What is important then? Pleasing youtube anonym fans you've never seen or talked to, or live your life, do whatever you like and keep close those you know and trust?

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Truth vs Tolerance?

Nowadays, in this world of ours, in this society, people proclaim tolerance everywhere, and many people(if not everyone) think it is something very important that we all need to live. It has become the banner of the defenders of liberty and equality. The only problem is (if there is only one) : the same people who claim to be tolerant, want and try to impose their conceptions to others...

Hypocrisy, much?

What is truth? I mean Truth; you know; that thing everyone claims to own. Well, obviously, there can only be ONE Truth. So there can't be "my" truth and "your" truth, if we both believe two things totally contrary to each other. One of us is right, or none of us know the truth, but we can't both have found the truth.
This is the danger with tolerance, it kills our so precious Truth's "voice".

But all that doesn't answer to the question, does it?

There is only one man who claimed to be The Truth(along with many other things). People think they can possess the truth, but we can never be sure to know it completely. At least, we can be honest with ourselves and others(and God, while we're at it), and not deny our beliefs and convictions pleading "tolerance" instead of Truth.



Tolerance is actually a trend, and I believe a very bad one...Try respect instead.

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Jesus the Christ is that man, if you were wondering. ;)

The purpose of it all

What is life all about? Is there really a reason for us to live? WHY? Why all this? Why life? Why love? Why hate? Why hardships? Why happiness?
We surely don't have all the answers, but one thing is sure : God has them! Yes, I do believe there is a God out there, who watches us live and destroy everything he created perfect. He is the purpose of it all! Hardships are not there to destroy us, but to give us an occasion to cry out to him! Love is his motivation for everything he lets happen, or decides to make happen(you decide which of those). But men are wicked and influenced by the devil, and think they are all powerful, but they are in fact very very weak(even more compared to the almighty God!).
What is your life about? What is your reason to live? Do you love? Do you hate? Why?! Are you happy? Are you "lucky"? Or is God gracious unto you?

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I am a child

I am a child. I am 20 years old, I know. But I am a child. I am a grown-up, or am I? I don't want to be a grown-up, sometimes. 
Grown-ups have forgotten everything they lived for when they were children. They used to play together, they used to dream, they used to care, they would never worry. They used to love with passion, deeply. They did not have prejudices. 
But now; they don't play anymore, they don't dream anymore, they don't care about anything but themselves and feel insecure. They hate with passion; they hate others and even themselves sometimes. They get angry and they forget that when they were children, they didn't know it all, but they wanted to learn. They forget that when they were children, they were hurt when adults lied to them. 
But they make the same mistakes as their parents and grandparents before them : they forget the essential things of life and attach themselves to things that pass; they are never satisfied.
So, I am a child, because I am still myself. Everything changed, but nothing changed, after all. 
I am the same, so is this world.
Will it ever change? I believe it will. I am not naive and I am not living a utopia. I think I am right and will never give up, as long as I am on this earth. 

As Mother Theresa said : "We ourselves feel that what we are doing is just a drop in the ocean. But the ocean would be less because of that missing drop."

"And because iniquity shall abound, the love of many shall wax cold. But he that shall endure unto the end, the same shall be saved"

Matthew 24v12-13